Hola de nuevo,
No sé si sabéis, supongo que no, que pusimos en marcha una escuela de padres hace poco en casa. Por ahora, los resultados son buenos. Es decir, he pasado de gritar unas 1000 veces al día en casa, a hacerlo una media de 750. ¡Y aún nos quedan 3 sesiones para acabar! Eso me anima a pensar que a lo mejor, sólo a lo mejor, cuando acabe chillo un 50% menos en casa.
En fin, estadísticas aparte, os dejo una tabla que he elaborado para mis peques con objeto de que empiecen a responsabilizarse de sus cosas... puesto a hacer la tabla, me pregunto si le serviría también a mi esposo tener una... ummmm... barajaré la idea durante unos días.
La idea es que los crios vayan poniendo pegatinas,(uy, perdón ahora son "gomets") verdes (si lo hacen), amarillos (lo hacen pero regular), rojos (no lo hacen), a lo largo de la semana. Si al terminar la semana tienen más verdes que rojos, les daremos un euro a cada uno. Los domingos serán días de reflexión para determinar si se lo han ganado o no. Por lo pronto, hoy destacar que hemos llegado 15 min. antes al cole. ¡Todo un logro!
Por cierto, os dejo el enlace de la página web de la escuela de padres que estamos haciendo. Es realmente buena y una aprende cosas. ¡Os la recomiendo al 100%!
http://www.com1nicat.com.es/
Por cierto, os dejo el enlace de la página web de la escuela de padres que estamos haciendo. Es realmente buena y una aprende cosas. ¡Os la recomiendo al 100%!
http://www.com1nicat.com.es/
Ana - your venture into creating the chart reminds me of how each child is so different from the next. My son, Jesse, refuses to do an activity if it involves any sort of keeping tally on a table or chart. This began with reading. The teacher required that each student keep a log of how many minutes they read books at night and what book title they were reading. This log caused Jesse much stress and he did not want to read any more if he had to write down how many minutes and the title. As parents, we decided that reading was more important and so we did not require the log, as long as he kept reading. His letter grade on his report card reflected the lack of not submitting a reading log, but in the long run, he is a very intelligent teenager who loves to read. The problem with keeping a log for Jesse using any kind of table continues in high school and I am not sure how he is going to get through life without adjusting to the fact that there are times when one must log their time or duty. The challenges of parenting continue even when your children are seemingly bright, rule-following, and loving people. God bless you as you embark on a noble road of tables to teach responsibility.
ResponderEliminarI know how you feel! Imagine with five. On my meeting with the teacher of my three year old, she told me how well Marta spoke and how bright all my kids were... Had I only three, I would have been filled with pride. After all, Miguel, Juanma and Marta speak very fluently and have splendid vocabulary for their age.
ResponderEliminarBut... here came Samuel, and surprise, surprise. He´s a two year old who refuses to speak a word. And he starts school with that same teacher next year!!!
I was really thinking, wait til you meet my wordless son! :)
Every child is different and it takes a different aproach.
As with the charts, the one´s we use are charts that have skills that they already have acquired, but for some reason, they have problems doing them. Example: tidy their room. That way, if they get a red sticker, it is not because they CANT do it, but because they didn´t WANT to do it.
I dont like charts that report the develpment of the child. It stresses the child if he doesn´t reach it. It´s not "I got a red sticker because i didn´t WANT". It´s I got a red sticker because I COULDN´T do something. I saw in Miguel´s classroom a chart that shows the improvement of the students in multiplication. Their teacher wants them to learn how to multiply by fifteen!! In the parent teacher meeting, I saw that Miguel was already in the 13th! But it got me thinking when I saw that most of the kids were stuck in 5, 6, or even 3. I really dont think they will get encouraged by that chart!
Again, I think that charts are good with skills we have acquired and wanto/not want to do. One can fight with his will power. And it´s good to see when we were able to defeat it! But never, never with skills not reached. It will became a frustrating chart!
Keep fighting and keep me posted... mine aren´t teenagers yet! Phew!
My older son, Andrew, did not speak much until he was over two years old. I was concerned and discussed it with the pediatrician. He asked me, "Does he get what he wants by pointing and grunting; if so, he has no reason to talk since he gets along fine without talking." I thought about that comment and remembered a situation that happened when I was a teenage babysitter for a family in our neighborhood. They had two children and the young boy never spoke when I was watching the two children. Then, one day I was asked to watch only the boy so the mother could take the older daughter somewhere. I was shocked by the full paragraphs the boy could say without his older sister to do the talking for him. I would think that Samuel will be talking your ear off very soon. Some wait until they have it mastered before they show off their verbal skills.
ResponderEliminarSpeaking of Andrew, for the last nine months he has kept an excellent log of his driving hours under the supervision of Paul and myself. Today, he took his driving test and was awarded his official driving license. YIKES! I am venturing into a brand new era of my parenting journey.
I agree with your thoughts on the skills chart and only tracking skills already acquired. Displaying publicly that a child has not acquired a particular skill cannot possibly be of any benefit. Good luck with the chore chart. With Andrew having a driving license now, I have a lot of leverage to hold Andrew to his responsibilities if he expects to have the responsibility behind the wheel of my car. He is highly motivated. I hope that helps make the journey smooth for us both.
Thanks Sandy, that really conforts me! He does get everything he wants by pointing his Little finger... I love how he asks for his pacifier at night. He opens his mouth and points at it with his finger. :) It´s really cute! As for you son, congratulate him for me! Í cant imagine how you as parents must feel the first times he goes out alone with the car.
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